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Picking toddler utensils and toddler silverware can be tricky. Especially if your little one is still getting the hang of self-feeding or still bites the utensils a bit!
At what point do you ditch the baby spoons and move on to the next step? That’s a good question!
Self-feeding in toddlerhood is important, and the right utensils can make a big difference. So, let’s dive in!
When can toddlers use silverware?
It’s important for toddlers to have safe utensils that allow them to explore and learn to self-feed.
Typically, toddlers start using a spoon independently for scooping around 12 months of age. Keep in mind, they’re just starting, so we are talking about independent scooping with a mess. If you’re wondering when your toddler will be able to use a spoon independently with minimal mess, that’s around 24 months of age.
More independent use of the fork comes later. Introduce a toddler fork around 15 months of age. Toddlers will begin to independently pierce food with a fork between 15-18 months of age and refine the skill with practice between 2-3 years of age.
What to look for in toddler utensils
Keep these things in mind when searching for toddler silverware:
Size and grip – shorter, chunky handles make it easier for toddlers to grip
Safe materials – choose non-toxic materials like stainless steel and silicone to avoid microplastics; if using plastic, check that it’s BPA-free
Weight – make sure the utensils aren’t too heavy for your toddler, we want them to be able to maneuver them easily
Shape& design – look for rounded/blunt tines on toddler forks and shallow bowls on spoons to help promote independent scooping
Ease of cleaning – dishwasher safe utensils make it easy on parents to clean!
Price: 3 sets for $16.99 Utensils included: fork & spoon Material: stainless steel and silicone
As your baby grows and becomes more competent with self-feeding, these Elk and Friends stainless steel and silicone utensils are some of my favorites. You can start using them around 15 months and throughout toddlerhood.
They’re a good weight for toddlers and easy to hold. The silicone sleeves on the handles gives toddlers a good grip during mealtimes.
Elk & Friends toddler silverware differentiates itself with a heart-shaped rest underneath each utensil. This allows toddlers to lay the utensils down without getting food residue on the table. Less mess, and less germs!
As a bonus for parents, they’re easy to clean. Just pop them in the dishwasher.
Lalo’s toddler forks and spoons are another go-to in our house during mealtimes. The silicone handles provide good grip for little hands and the stainless steel tips are sturdy and durable.
We love all of Lalo’s tableware because it’s made with non-toxic materials and a kid-friendly design. Our utensils are over 4 years old and still going strong.
This stainless steel set of toddler utensils is the perfect size for toddler hands. Simple yet sturdy, the set comes with a kid-friendly touch – there are animals on the handles!
I love that they’re completely plastic-free and dishwasher safe, too. Many reviewers say their kids have used this silverware for years!
Price: 2 sets for $9.64 Utensils included: fork & spoon Material: BPA-free plastic and stainless steel
While these toddler utensils aren’t completely plastic-free, the part that goes in your child’s mouth is. The handles are made of BPA-free plastic, but the spoon and fork tips are stainless steel.
This budget-friendly kids’ flatware comes with a raised base that keeps the utensil tips from touching other surfaces.
We’ve had this set for years and it’s faired well. The handles are chunkier so they allow toddlers a good ergonomic grip.
Price: 4 for $36.99 Material: silicone sleeve, non-porous porcelain
These are our new favorite plates for my 2 and 4 year old. I feel great about serving their snacks and meals on non-porous ceramic.
The silicone boots on the bottom are great for protecting the porcelain and keeping it from chipping. You can pop these into the dishwasher and they wash up well. They’re also microwave safe.
The shallow dividers are great if your toddler prefers food to be separated. Elk and Friends also makes non-divided toddler plates (pictured above) if that fits your child’s mealtime preferences. You can use these plates through toddlerhood and beyond.
In terms of toddler plates, you want something durable yet easy to clean. And the Lalo Big Bites plate delivers just that.
Made with non-toxic silicone, these plates are sturdy and dishwasher safe. They’re a great size for toddler meals – not too big and not too small.
We use these all the time at home with our Lalo utensils. This plate is part of Lalo’s larger Big Bites Tableware Set and comes with an open cup, a fork and spoon, and as silicone placemat, as well.
Ahimsa plates are made with 18/8 food-grade stainless steel. They’re durable, dishwasher safe, and designed by a pediatrician.
Unlike many other toddler plates, these have deeper divided compartments to function like a plate or a tray for snacks. The compartments are 2 oz., 4 oz., and 12 oz. With these sizes, the plate can accommodate your toddler through early school years.
The beauty of stainless steel is it never warps, doesn’t leach chemicals, and doesn’t retain odors. Plus, it’s unbreakable – dine indoors or outdoors without worrying.
Best Silicone Placemats
We love a good placemat for toddlers. Placemats help toddlers see their designated eating space at the table which can help foster independence and routine. They’re also helpful at containing the mess and can be more hygienic.
Silicone placemats are a great addition to your diaper bag when eating out. They create a clean, designated surface for your child to eat on—no matter where you are. Afterward, just wash them with soap and water, and they’re ready to use again.
We own and love Lalo’s silicone placemats. And we don’t just use them for mealtime!
I love using these as “cutting boards” for the kids. We break out soft fruits and veggies and let the littles use their kid-safe knives to help with food prep.
You can purchase this placemat alone on their website or as part of their larger Big Bites Full Kit.
Remember, allowing your little ones to participate in food prep can help reduce picky eating!
This placemat is a unique half-circle shape with raised edges to contain spills. It’s a safe, non-toxic surface free of BPA and phthalates.
While it’s more expensive than the other placemats listed here, it’s offered in the most colors and patterns. Mushie offers matching bibs and tableware to compliment the placemats.
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